Being kind to yourself is the main theme with my students these weeks. Young students from not so easy backgrounds that have close to never learned the art of taking care of themselves.
How do we do that? Well, that is as variable as we are people but one thing is sure – without a sense of body…it becomes foggy. Knowing ones own borderlines from the bodysensations; tactile, sight, hearing and listening is a helpfull gateway in the proces of being kind to oneself. To know: What do I prefer? What feels good to me? Where and with whom do I flourish, grow and spread my wings?
Questions my students are invited to ask themselves each day when we go for our long walks in the woods. In silence because in silence you have a chance to hear the answers.
Over time the knowledge grows in their bodies and minds. They know when to say no and yes to suggestions, when to move forward and when to make a hold and re-think things. A wonderfull, giving (for all) process that over time and in the coming years of their lives seems to have a profound meaning. Study-/friendship-/health- and living wise.
Last week I completed a six months long education with 16 hours examination. Lots of feedback from co-students and teachers (yoga). 26 students, all felt the so familiar nervousness also called fear. Being exposed bodily and mentally on stage is in itself a stretch. Receiving feedback//critics on top – is really a teeth shaker and mouth drier.
The group decided silently not to fall into the well known trap of pointing fingers but share from an honest, loving, open heart. The good stuff and the stuff to work on.
Healing fear together is such a liberating experience. Friends, colleagues, lovers, family members. Maybe The Most important job of all. Dive under the surface together and face whatever tightens us up and breathe through it. Expose ourselves to it and accept that we sometimes don´t know what lies behind. But we trust the opening that awaits on the other side. Just Like the yoga-asanas teach us. Open up to our true authenticity, love and compassion.
The World needs our healed hearts.
One of the more rewarding subjects I share with my students is the inevitable setbacks in Conscious Living. Setbacks that in themselves are grow-backs – meaning; challenges to expand from. No matter how honest we have been with ourselves, how close to the core we feel – life gives us constantly opportunities to more conscious choices.
I know the reactions beforehand: “You can`t mean it!? MORE work, more inner archeology…?”
Funny enough, if we compare – what I often do – lifting the consciousness with art, we would never expect a Picasso to say: “I’ve seen it all, tried it all, no more to investigate.”
Same goes for Conscious Living. Its an art-form that walks in spirals; expansion, digest, loose sight, look deeper, broaden the perspective, go higher…on and on ????
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I feel so grateful for this proces. A full circle is completed. Yoga came into my life as a saviour in my early 30-ies, body full of stress and tension. Couldn’t work, think straight or breathe fully… Racer-Mind and body. Three weeks on the mat daily – symptoms gone! Thanks to wonderful teachers whom I to this day feel deeply grateful for.
Now its my turn – to stand on the teacher-mat. Guiding 26 wonderful fellow-students through a sequence building on Garland pose. Nervous? Yes, but also full of joy, happiness and a sense of Mission Completed.
If you deal with stress I always recommend to start with the grounding effects of movement. Almost any movement, I would say. Pick the one that fits you the best and that brings your attention to your breath, your limbs, your inner sensations. And yes, it can take some time to get there where you at all feel these things. But you know what; it also took us some time to get to where we are now.
So slowly get yourself back to yourself, your body, your life… begins, in my eyes, with movement. Let me guide you, if that feels most comfortable. We do it in a nice studio or over Skype. Your choise. I´m here to fascilitate your coming-back with all my passion for the work and your well being.
My favourite quote, Yogi Bhajan: “Yoga is not going to make you great. Yoga is going to make you you!”
In 1978 this handsome guy – my Dad – took a long, deserved holiday on Rhodes with my Mum. He was a very successful designer, had a great career and a lot of accomplishments. But he also had a lot of hard times visiting his soul. Being a bi-polar spirit he knew all the dark nights and also the very very light ones.
But one thing he mastered to perfection and tought us children was embracing the totality of being – shadow and light. The not-so-sexy moments when we realise our own so called shadow side because we have invested a lot of energy in hiding it and only showing the flashy bright side.
Somehow in his darker moments he reached the wisdom modern psychology today knows as a fact: That not until we embrace both sides – the not-so sexy shadow and OWN it alongside with the brighter appealing side – will our lives flow. It is in the hiding, striving and editing of ourselves that we hide the light, the spirit, the very thing people around us fall in love with.
Mindfulness is certainly one solid way of gaining this insight. Embracing all sides of your personality and…first and foremost: With Loving Kindness. Observing when the so called Dragon shows it´s face – mostly when we are stressed out and over-loaded in the brain and just stay present with the sensations.
How do you own all sides of you? How do you fall in love with that hidden side in you? Life is too short for the in-liner life.
What most people fall in love with in Mindfulness is becoming the observer of our own thoughts. Witnessing the ongoing mindset and become more present and grounded is a relief for most of my students.
When I was around 29, I hit a mental wall of fatigue that most people call stress. I mastered three jobs in line, studied at the university and left a not so healthy relationship – all in one year. One day I couldn’t find that happy smile; everything was aching – joints, soul and bloodstream. The way back went through daily yoga, mindfull meditation, change of lifestyle in food, habits, thinking and values. A turnaround that felt vital but also a lot more than just 180* – rather 360*Plus.
But it also became the start of my life long relationship with Mindfulness and a whole new way of experiencing thinking. That it´s habitual, constant and repetitious. And by mere naming the thoughts – “planning”, “worrying” or “speculating” …we put a healthy space around them that brings a deep relaxation into our nervous system.
Do you have a mindfull praxis around your thoughts? I really wish that for all of us- because it brings relief into our buissy, lovely lives.
If you are curious about learning how to observe your own thoughts and find rest in your own nervous system – I offer one-to-on sessions on Skype. Book in booking system on this page.